Do you have the confidence to succeed as a
Are you confident that you will be able to
tackle every obstacle that comes your way in your pursuit of freedom?
These days I am confident in the majority
of my business dealings. But it wasn’t always that way.
I have missed out on major opportunities in
the past because I didn’t feel confident enough to take them on.
Have you ever felt that way?
You probably have and there is nothing
wrong with that.
I firmly believe that confidence is a major
contributor to success. You can do anything you want if you have the
confidence. It is what sets the successful people apart from the unsuccessful.
To grow as human beings we need to move
outside of our comfort zones. Most people do the same things over and over
again every day and then complain that they are not successful. They will claim
that successful people are “lucky” or “got in at the right time”. I remember
saying these things myself a few years ago.
So in this post I want to share with you 5
tips to boost your confidence that have really worked for me and I strongly
believe will work for you as well. Before I do that let’s examine why it is so
important to be self confident.
Why you need to be Self Confident
When you are self confident others will
admire you and you will have the power to inspire others. A self confident
individual will take calculated risks and will face their fears head on. It
doesn’t matter what obstacles get in their way they always have the confidence
to get over these obstacles. This is essential in property investment and
business in general.
A self confident person sees the positive
aspects of every situation. It doesn’t matter how bad things get they will use
their positive outlook to move forward. Just imagine what you could do with
this level of confidence. Well with a bit of practice you can become super self
confident and achieve all of your goals.
If you know that you have low confidence
levels then never believe that you will be stuck with this forever. You can
learn to be more self confident at any time in your life and if you practice
the 5 techniques that I will share with you here you can become a confidence
Think about this for a moment – if you do
not have total belief in yourself then how can you expect anyone else to
believe in you?
So I want you to read the 5 tips that I
share with you below and really take them on board. Please don’t just read this
post and then move on to something else. Make a commitment to becoming more
confident right now and start to use the techniques today. With regular
practice you will soon become more confident than you ever thought possible.
Becoming more confident with these tips is
not a miracle. You are not going to be able to do these things one time and
then be a super confident being. Work on these techniques every day. Create a
list of them and make sure that you can see them at your office and at home.
1. Embrace Positivity and Avoid Negativity
There is negativity all around us. Every time
you watch the news on TV a barrage of negativity hits you. It is the same if
you read newspapers or surf the Internet for news stories. It’s all doom and
gloom so the best thing you can do is to minimise your time spent doing this.
I am not saying here that you shouldn’t
know what is going on in the world. If that is important to you then go for it.
But watching a 30 minute news program or spending the same amount of time
reading a newspaper or reading news on the web is too much negativity at once.
I would recommend that you stop doing this altogether when you are starting
Another source of negativity comes from the
people that you associate with. Some of your colleagues, family members and
friends will be negativity merchants. They see the black side of everything and
love to spread this as far and wide as they can. This can have a significant
impact on your confidence levels.
You know who these people are so do your
best to avoid them. Even a temporary break away from these people will help you
to focus on the positive. When you are dealing with anyone inject some positive
enthusiasm into your conversations. Share your enthusiasm for your next
property investment project with your team for example.
One of the biggest mistakes that I made in
my early years was believing that I could change others from being negative to
positive. Your self confidence can certainly rub off on others but they can
only change themselves. Sharing this post with them is a good idea. Just focus
on building your own confidence levels by becoming more positive each day.
Surrounding yourself with like minded and
positive people will help you a lot. You can find these kind of people at the
Chamber of Commerce and other networking events. There are also communities and
groups that you can join online.
2. Improve your Body Language and overall Image
Are you good at making eye contact with
others? Do you stand tall when you meet new people? Do you smile a lot? If you
have an issue with any of these then you need to make some improvements here.
The way that a person stands tells you a
lot about their self confidence. Try this easy exercise. Stand up and pull your
shoulders back. Use a mirror to see how this looks. You will certainly appear
more self confident when you do this.
Another very easy thing to do is to smile
more often. It will make people around you feel more comfortable and you will
feel better too. Changing your posture by moving your shoulders back and
smiling more will do wonders for your self confidence.
The next change will take a bit more
practice and time if you are not good at it now. I am talking about eye
contact. When you are speaking to people look directly at them rather than
looking on the floor. Speak more slowly than you normally do as well.
Finally take a look at your current image.
Do you need a new hairstyle and some new clothes? If so then treat yourself!
You will feel a lot better about yourself and others will see you as self
3. Stop Accepting Failure and Deal with Negative Self Talk
Failure is an inevitable part of success.
In my earlier years I could never accept failure. It would drive me crazy and
drain my confidence. There are times when I just wanted to give up and do
something else when things went wrong. Have you had these kinds of experiences
The best way to tackle failure is to learn
from it and move on. If you have not read my post on the Power of Persistence
and Consistency then I strongly recommend that you do. There is always a
solution to every problem that comes your way and throwing in the towel is
never the answer. When you succeed in the face of adversity you give your
confidence a massive boost.
A lot of people have low confidence levels
because they listen to the negative self talk that happens in their heads. This
self talk is always switched on when you are awake and if you don’t control it
then it can destroy your confidence.
Imagine that you have to walk into a room
full of strangers to discuss a potential property investment deal. You know
that this deal is very good news for your business but your negative self talk
kicks in and tells you that you are not worthy of such a deal.
You tell yourself that you do not have the
knowledge and experience to make this deal happen for example. Do not let this
negative self talk drive down your confidence levels. Whenever a negative
thought like this enters your head you need to neutralise it with a positive
So if your mind is telling you that you are
not smart enough to pull off a deal say to yourself “I am incredibly smart and
I will get this deal easily” or something similar. Controlling your mind in
this way will increase your confidence more than you could ever believe.
4. Prepare to Win
Going into something unprepared is a real
test of your confidence. Sometimes you just have to do this but most of the
time you will be able to prepare. Learn everything that you can about the
property investment business by reading online, taking training courses,
attending seminars and getting a good mentor.
As your knowledge builds you will become
more confident. If you have to give a presentation or attend a meeting then
plan what you are going to say. Knowledge and preparedness will always make you
5. Be Grateful and Record your Victories
Write a list of the things that you are
grateful for in your life. This can be your health, your family, friends and
colleagues, your intelligence, your things and so on. Keep adding to this list
regularly as you are not going to think of everything the first time around.
Think about the things that you achieved in
the past against the odds. Write down everything you are proud to have achieved
no matter how small and insignificant they may seem now. Over time you should
be able to create a long list of your life victories.
Put these 2 lists in a place that you will
see them every day. Better still start a daily journal and write the lists in
there. The idea here is to show yourself that you really are an amazing person
and you have achieved so much in your life already. These lists will really
inspire you and give your confidence a much needed boost.